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Potty Training Twins & Triplets
The good news is that by the time your twins or triplets head for the altar. they will be toilet trained. However. the time in between. i.e. when they are ready to be potty trained at about age two and the time they set out for the alter. can be a challenge and even more so for those with multiples.

Some of the most asked questions:

When is the best time to begin or even think of beginning training?
What if one (or two) is ready to be trained before the other(s)?
Should they be compared to each other to encourage a slower one?
Is it true that boys are slower to train than girls?

The following tips have put together in an effort to assist you and your multiples in making this all-important step an enjoyable one rather than guilt-laden or down right unpleasant. You may also find Gina Ford's best-selling book Potty Training in One Week, a useful guide to help you plan successful potty training including some specific information on potty traing twins.

Usually parents begin to think about toilet training around their child's second birthday or when the child shows an interest in training. Two long years of multiple (pardon the pun) nappy changes and the light is at the end of the tunnel! But don't rush it. Proceeding too quickly can make the whole attempt unpleasant and worrisome for your child(ren) and they quickly pick up on your anxiety. If things initially don't work out (whether for one or more of your children). stop the whole attempt. relax and try again at a later time.

Getting Prepared : Make Potty Training your multiples fun which will help you with successful potty training. The award winning PottieStickers Toilet Training System offers portability, structure and success using colourful stickers as a fun reward system.

Additional Items you may also find useful as you progress to the big toilet are a toilet training seat as the big toilet can be scary and a step stool. For trips out in the buggy and car, it's recommended to use cushions covered firstly with polythene bag and then with a removable, washable cover.

Before beginning, look for some positive signs which will indicate that each child is ready to begin. When one or more of the following occur. then it is time to begin thinking about toilet training: But remember - YOU also need to be ready to begin too !
  • He/she is over 2 years old (for singletons min 18 months)
  • less nappies to change during the day. dry nappy for 2 hours since last change
  • frequently dry after lunchtime nap
  • wet during nap time but dry for long periods during wake time;
  • an awareness of doing a poo. going quiet and showing signs of concentration or pointing to nappy and saying what he has done
  • dry overnight.
  • can participate in taking off own clothes (shoes. socks. pants) and understand what pulling pants up and down means.
It is recommended to have at least one potty per child. you may choose ones of the same colour and design to avoid fighting or if your children have different, favourite colours then this may also work for you.& ;In this manner. each child can have possession of their own potty. may practice together or apart. can progress at their own rate and not have to challenge their sibling for a chance to sit on a potty. or when two or more need to use it at exactly the same time.
  • Remember to assess each child's readiness individually.
  • Do not rush into potty training too quickly. wait until they are at least two years of age. Before 18 months. children's muscles are not developed enough for the bladder control required for potty training.
  • Don't compare the children to each other or place blame regarding readiness or performance.
  • Don't make a child who is ready to toilet train wait for his/her sibling(s) to be ready. This could be quite a setback for the one whom is ready.
  • Work with each child individually and be pleased with some one-on-one time if your children are ready to proceed at different times.
  • Buy a lot of pants in readiness ! (Top Tip: Buy larger sizes to make it easy for them to pull them up and down).
With boy/girl sets of multiples it is not unusual. for example. for the girls to be ready in advance of the boys. so expect a difference in readiness time. But you can remain assured that when each child is ready and their proper muscle development has been reached. in no time at all they will toilet train.
  • Relax. don't add pressure or anxiety to the situation.
Some parents have good luck commencing toilet training with the bowel movements. If you notice that your toddler has his bowel movement at a set time each day. you may wish to introduce the potty just prior to that time and encourage him to try and use the potty. If it doesn't work right away. don't worry. It is not unusual for a child to have to get used to the prospect of using a potty and having the right attitude to your child's efforts will assist him in feeling comfortable about this new experience and in trying to make it a part of their daily schedule.

Some parents like to try to begin toilet training during the summer months. when clothes are few and loose fitting and the child can run around freely. You should put your children in pants rather than let them be& ;naked so they recognise when they need the toilet. Do not be tempted to use training 'pull-up' pants as these can be confusing for children.

Once you have made the step to get them out of nappies. try and keep them out of nappies. They may regress and have a bad couple of days and even children who have been dry for months may regress at times of emotional upheaval (also check for urine infections with your doctor). Events like a new brother/sister or starting playgroup may trigger wetting again but by being patient. consistent and encouraging. you should get them back on track - re-introducing a star chart to reward them may be a good idea if regression occurs.

When choosing a potty. make sure it is comfortable and will not tip over. Falling off can be embarrassing and scary and impede the process. You can look at free standing models. one with a tray or one that fits directly over the toilet. If you get one that fits over the toilet. be sure to have a small stepping stool handy for your child's use.

You may wish to ask your friends which they would recommend before deciding which one to invest in. Some have a shield (sometimes removable) for use with little boys. The shield can get in the way and hurt the boy when trying to get on or off the toilet. Teach them how to get on and off the seat without hurting themselves on the shield. Most parents remove the shield and teach their son to point his penis downwards to urinate.

Some parents take a toy to the training session. something the child can focus on rather than on "performing" into the potty. Realise that whatever you do choose to take. may end up in the toilet. When your child is successful and does urinate or have a bowel movement in the potty. be encouraging. Use lots of praise and positive feedback. You may ask him if he wishes to flush it down. He may wish to "admire" his efforts for some time before flushing and this is quite normal.

Try our PottieStickers for a fun way to reward your children for their efforts. PottieStickers come in a variety of designs to choose from. Each design provides children creativity and imagination development while reinforcing a positive and rewarding system for toilet-training.

Be prepared for the fact that your child may be startled at the sound of urine or stool falling into the potty. You may need to explain away his fears if such is the case.

Be prepared for some interference from the child(ren) who is not ready to train. He may want the toy that his sibling has or cause a disturbance to try and attract your attention and focus. Try and explain to him what his sibling is doing but if it doesn't work. you could either postpone the potty attempt for that day or remove him elsewhere.

Avoid power struggles as they will only compound the situation.

Be prepared for your child to either focus on his own genitals or his sibling's. This curiosity is natural. It may be a good time to refer to the proper names of your child's sex organs and get them used to hearing the proper terminology.

There may be things within a small child(ren)'s life which can cause a setback in toilet training: the arrival of a new baby. a trip away from home. moving house. to name some. When there is a major upheaval in your child's life. expect for there to be some regression in his/her training. Just go with the flow. don't put any pressure on your child(ren) and he will soon be back on track. Remember. they are all trained by the time they are ready to go to the alter!

A reminder as children are training: Children tend to wait until the last possible moment before they actually decide they need to go. They don't recognize the cues that they need to go and/or do not wish to leave the toy/game they are playing. As a result. when they need to go They Need to Go and it's a mad rush to the potty. undoing pants along the way. You will begin to recognise each child's "dancing style" and can offer some guidance and assurance the toy will be there when he/she returns. If an accident occurs. be patient. be helpful. speak softly and reassure your child. Both of you will benefit.

Try and make this time as pleasant as possible for everyone. Don't worry about your neighbour's singleton child who was trained at 20 months. That child did not have the distraction of two or three other siblings her own age and had her parents' full attention all of the time. When your children are ready. and with the proper encouragement and positive feedback. the natural will happen.

Adapted from Toilet Training...With Love: encouraging toilet habits with singletons. twins or triplets. by Lucille Proulx Jodoin and Potty Training in One Week by Gina Ford

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