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New Year Resolutions for Multiples' Mums & Dads!

Its a new year for all you mums and dads with twins, triplets or more. Time for new perspectives and attitudes, and, if you have twins under the age of 25 behaviours! Never mind the standard resolutions to eat healthier, lose a few pounds or clean more frequently. Lets be honest, we make them every year and every year we barely stick with them past January 6. This year, make a few realistic resolutions that will ensure a more stress-free lifestyle.

Out With the Old, In With the New!
A new year is a perfect time for a deep cleansing. Dont worry I am not referring to your house yet. Im asking you to cleanse your frazzled mind. Leave all the frustrations, challenges and tantrums that you've had with your twins or triplets of the past year behind and start anew.

Take a minute (or an hour, if necessary) to forgive your children for the things they damaged or destroyed last year. Forgive your husband for not realising or acknowledging with enough frequency how much you accomplish each day. Forgive yourself for reacting less than calmly in your more frustrating moments. Wipe the slate clean. Remember that this year, your children will be a little older and with any luck a little wiser. They will make you mad and happy in new ways and your partner has another 365 days to work to try and help or at least understand a bit more!

And by all means, hit the shops this weekend and buy one great item the sales this time of year are reason enough!

Ensure You Have a New Calendar
We mums are nothing without our calendars. I believe if I had to choose between a mobile phone and a calendar. I might surprise even myself and pick the calendar. Instead of buying a simple. bland calendar that only reminds you of how busy your life has become, find a humorous one that will guarantee you start each day with a laugh but still with plenty of space!

I also like to keep a desk calendar at work which provides a humorous quote or thought that keeps me smiling all day long (and sometimes longer). I also invest in the fabulous Twins & Triplets Calendar produced by our friends at twinsclub which also helps to raise funds for a nominated charity.

Plan Your Weekly Escape
For heavens sake, this does not include a trip to Tesco for nappies or the supermarket for the weekly shop! Plan to have a scheduled afternoon or evening each week when you do something for yourself. Sign up for a yoga class or something more creative,& join a local volunteer group or just meet your friends for coffee! Choose something that you will enjoy, that will make you feel satisfied and that you will look forward to each week. If you are emotionally invested in the activity. you will be more committed long term but whatever you choose to do,make sure you do it - we all need some 'me time' so no guilty feelings!

Keep Cabin Fever to a Minimum
If you have twins, triplets or more children who are not yet regularly attending school, vow to have an activity at least once a week that gets you all out of the house especially if you live in a cold winter climate. How about a weekly trip to the library to pick out a few new books or movies? Or a weekly play group to meet with friends? Active classes like Tumble Tots will drain a bit of the kids energy or music & song classes for young children are fun and interactive? Winter can seem endless but if you have a plan to make it through a week at a time, you will be swinging on the swings at the park and having fun on the beach before you know it.

Eliminate One Source of Stress in Your Life
Acknowledge one thing that stressed you out the most and plan to eliminate it this year. What one item or activity distressed you the most in the previous year? Was it your lack of control over household finances? The infrequency with which you and your husband got out together? The constant clutter in your home? Caring for your twins or triplets every day!

Once identified, find a way to ensure that that thing doesnt bug you through the new year as well. Hire a cleaner every other week or once a month. Sit down and obtain a more accurate picture of your finances and monthly budget as well as a plan to ensure youre sticking with that budget. Find a babysitter you can rely on to come once or twice a month or do a deal with friends who have multiples to babysit for each other once a month. Even better, vow to get away for a short break at least twice a year without children we all love them but raising more than one child at a time is stressful and we all need a break to refresh ourselves and remember that we do really love them and our partners to bits!

Choose One Book to Finish by the End of the Year
How many books are sitting by your bedside table? If you are anything like me, at least three or four which are likely include the following: a guide to managing multiples,& a strategy for keeping your marriage alive after twins, a self-help book on dealing with stress, a Bible (I pray for guidance regularly!), a book about inspirational women entrepreneurs and the Good Housekeeping guide to getting anything and everything out of the carpet and car seats! Is there even book sitting in that stack that is purely enjoyable? Ill admit. I do have one: a murder mystery by Agatha Christie. However. Im only on page eight and I started it six months ago and Im determined not to jump to the back to find out whodunnit!

Choose a book that youve wanted to read for some time and vow to complete it within the next six months to a year. We should all complete at least one book each year that is read for pure enjoyment.

Get Organised !
A cluttered home creates a cluttered brain. Multiples Mums cant afford any more clutter than already exists. Organise drawers that are currently overstuffed with colouring books, take-away menus and various sign-up sheets. Sort and arrange the items in your cupboards. Sort out your kitchen cupboards. Get rid of all the toys the children no longer play with. This need not be an all-day affair. Dedicate yourself to a location-a-day plan if need be. Youll be amazed by how much more relaxing it is to open a well-organized cupboard than one filled with contents from which you have to cower when opening.

Make Your Personal Yearly Medical Appointments This Week!
Its easy to procrastinate when making non-critical medical appointments. After all, who has time to sit on hold for long periods of time, waiting to find out how many months will pass before she can be seen? As we listen to classic on hold music while the minutes tick, we convince ourselves that we feel just fine and will, therefore, make the appointment another day. Before we know it, its June and the doctor or dentist cant get us in until November!

Dedicate a week this month to making your annual appointments for a physical, well-woman exam, dental check up and any other annual appointments you require. Make the appointments for your husband as well. His health is just as important, yet he is likely to go 10 years without seeing a doctor if allowed. You may even be able to get a family appointment which will save you time and hassle so you can get the kids seen too.

Begin Reading One Personal Guide
I realise Im asking you to add yet another book to the ready-to-topple-over stack presently next to your bed. Yet. if there is one tool that has helped me and many of my friends shuffle through our days with a little less frustration over the small, albeit annoying occurrences of each day. it is their spirituality or just plain down-to-earth common sense.

Invest in a book that gives you the strength and the perspective to conquer the numerous inconveniences not to mention routine daily activities that transpire. Seek simple strategies for living a more fulfilled and peaceful life and learn to be calm and stress-free. There are many good books that help you recognise and develop these traits but I like Dont Sweat the Small Stuff.and its all Small Stuff !& By Richard Carlson as its thought provoking and humorous.

And Finally. Give Yourself a Pat on the Back !
All multiples mums (and dads) are amazing ! How many times have people said to you 'I don't know how you do it ?' Hundreds. thousands ?? Take time out just to realise what an incredible person you are and give yourself a big pat on the back.

New Years Resolutions are your own. They are meant to enhance your life, not add to the chaos that already exists within it. If you commit to shifting the practices in your life that cause you to count the minutes until bedtime from the minute you open your eyes each morning, you will surely be on your way toward a fulfilling new year.

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