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Top 10 Things I Love About Having Twins
Being a parent of twins. triplets and multiples is a rollercoaster of emotions - full of ups and downs. There are many challenging times but also plenty of moments where you feel so lucky and blessed to have them and I would like to celebrate the double joy of twins.

Here are some of the things that I love most about being a mum of twins. These two charmers are my gorgeous twins. Abbey and Ellen.& at 8 months - a rare picture of them in dresses !

1) Double Blessings

Every child fills their parents' hearts and home with joy. That's what I really love about having twins. Everybody says it (well. after they get over the twinshock !) and it really is true - you really do get double the love and joy although you may have to wait a while to really feel the benefit. Holding twins in my arms was so incredible after waiting such a long time to have them. Holding hands with two toddlers -- one on the right. and one on the left -- while crossing the street makes me feel so proud and yes. I love the attention that having twins brings too. Double hugs. double kisses. mummy-in-the-middle "sandwich" cuddles on the couch... life just doesn't get any better than that !

2) A Mind of their Own !

Parenting happens in stages.& I found it much easier to manage two infants or two toddlers. than those mothers having to try and juggle the needs of a baby and a pre-schooler. These phases of parenthood are experienced more intensely. sometimes. because they are simultaneous. but I love it that way. Yes. the first year is tough. very tough but even during this there are moments of sheer joy like their first smiles and giggles and they also start to develop their own personalities and ways of getting what they want !

3) Magical Milestones

It's always exciting to see your child meet a milestone. But when two or more multiples accomplish their goals simultaneously. it's a wonderful experience for a family. For example. I was bursting with pride when both of my twins spoke for the first time and then started to talk to each other or when they did their first painting and proudly held it up to show mummy. One of my girls had a long physical delay so her sister was running long before she could even stand. Once she reached the goal of standing on her own. there was no stopping the two of them and her sister held her hand and helped her learn to run and jump it was truly moving to see them achieve so much together.

4) Making Each Other Laugh

It's such fun to hear them share jokes. call each other by nicknames (mine are apparently called Brittany and Jo-Lo !) and role play their special scenarios. Often when we are driving down the road. giggles erupt from the car seats in the back seat. As one laughs. the other also breaks out in giggles the spur each other on the entire ride home. What a sweet sound those giggles are and its so lovely to hear them laugh or sing together. not at each other. but with each other.

5) So Alike. But So Different

It's fascinating to be an observer of twins. With so many similarities. but such stark differences. it's always interesting to see how they develop as individuals. Where parents of singletons may say. "Oh. you are just like your sister was at that age." parents of multiples have an instant basis of comparison and contrast among their children. I love the fact my girls are so different in many ways but then again similar in some. Their personalities are quite individual but its fascinating to watch them as they pick up on each others habits or little quirky ways. The copying might drive you insane at times but you can't help but laugh !

6) Two for the Price of One !

Short and sweet.......one pregnancy and two babies - talk about efficiency !& Although a pregnancy with multiples may have more risks and sometimes more complications. this is truly a great deal. As an 'older' mum going through a few years of IVF. I was truly praying for twins and was overjoyed at my first scan much to the surpise of the doctor !

7) A Sense of Status

Okay. I admit it. I get a little thrill of pride in being a mum of twins. It's like being a part of an elite club. You feel an instant bond with other parents of multiples. I love the reaction I get when I tell people I have twins. "Wow!" "I always wanted twins..." "I don't know how you do it..." It's almost like we enjoy an exclusive status in the parenting world. earning a slight nod of respect for pulling double duty. Of course. even twin mums bow down to those of triplets or higher order multiples - now really - how do they do it !

8) Sharing & Caring

Twins share everything -- their birthday. their parents' attention. and many of their belongings. Although they may get frustrated with their situation. as a parent. it's very gratifying to witness their "what's mine is yours" attitude in a moment of unselfish benevolence. My heart actually fills with joy when my girls spontaneously share something or when one asks for another biscuit or toy for their twin sister and the biggest joy of all are spontaneous cuddles - it almost brings a tear to my eyes ! Of course. I admit its not always quite the caring and sharing household it could be !

9) A Beautiful Bond

The twin bond is more enduring than any other relationship on earth. starting even before birth. and often outlasting many friendships and even marriages. Despite their squabbles. it's comforting to know that they will (hopefully) enjoy their unique relationship for all of their lives. They will always have a friend. a playmate and someone to confide in and someone to share their joys and tears. As their mother. I feel really privileged to be a party to their special bond. and to have the opportunity to nurture it. Although it is often said that fraternal twins are no more alike than siblings of different ages. there is an undisputable special bond between twins and multiples that goes beyond being merely siblings.

10) Confidence in Companionship

I love the confidence that my twins exhibit simply because they have always had each other to rely on. I love to watch them enter new. unfamiliar situations with confidence because they are together. I love seeing all the ways that being a twin shapes their personalities. both as an advantage and a disadvantage. They have never known loneliness because they've always had each other as a companion. When they are briefly separated. they ask for each other and often seek each other out in social situations. However. they still seem to have a great sense of self and have strong individual personalities which I try to encourage as much as possible as it's important they learn to 'survive' without each other but that sense of knowing someone is always there for you must be& truly wonderful.

So. I hope I have convinced you that you are truly lucky to have twins. triplets or even more and if you are still in the first year - hang in there - it REALLY does get better and better !


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