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Celebrating Birthdays with Twins & Multiples

We all love to celebrate our birthday and they are an even bigger milestone for twins, triplets and higher order multiples. After all, it is one of the first things they share as they begin their life and continue to share each and every year. Celebrating birthdays in a meaningful way that makes each child feel special and unique can be a challenge. Here are some suggestions to help make birthdays memorable and happy events for everyone involved.

1. Keep it Simple.
You may wish to consider limiting the number of guests. A general rule of thumb for singletons is to invite one child per year of age. for example three guests for a three-year-old. four for a four-year-old. That ratio is generally appropriate for multiples as well. although if you're ambitious and can afford to. it's not unreasonable to increase it proportionally for twins. triplets or more...the more may be the merrier but expect to be tired at the end of the party!

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2. Age Appropriate

Ensure that parties produce happy memories for both guests and hosts by planning age-appropriate activities. Two-year-olds don't really need circus rides and a magician they will probably be overwhelmed by too much hype anyway. A few party games will suffice that suit the age of the children, pass the parcel, musical bumps and pin the tail on the donkey are always good games for little ones, but use something like blu-tack for the tail not pins! Older children may like a spa party or a trip to the cinema with pizza afterwards. Personally I would avoid sleepovers as with twins or more, guest numbers can get out of hand - limit them to a couple of friends each but still expect to get no sleep!

3. Who's this Party for ?
Remember who the party is really for. If it's your multiples' first birthday, it's probably you that deserves a party! But as the children get older, allow them to have input into the party planning and preparation. Be honest with them about your budget and abilities and discuss expectations before you start planning. What I've done as my twins got older was to plan a family day out instead, with them picking the venue. It's usually a theme park and we allow them to take a friend each, it can be a fun-filled family day and everyone is exhausted at the end so more chance of a good night's sleep!

4. Consider alternative celebrations.
If you want to go the individual route and celebrate each twin's birthday separately then by all mans arrange different events. Probably one for older children as this is more difficult to do logistically and they may even have to be on separate days. This does mean, however, that they really get to be the centre of attention for one day at least!

5. Share and Share Alike?

Sharing your special day with your sibling can be fun but not all twins and multiples are going to be so keen. Talk to your children about their feelings. Many adult multiples say that sharing a birthday and the celebration is actually part of the fun of growing up as a multiple.

6. For once. get two for the price of one.
Birthdays can be one of the few ways that parents of multiples actually benefit. It is certainly easier to plan, and pay for, one party a year rather than have two separate events. Professional party services will generally charge the same amount for a twin birthday party as for a single child, with perhaps a small additional fee for a second set of balloons or any additional items. However, it may come don to how they feel about it. If they are in the same class then a big class party may be the way to go but if they are in separate classes then that's a party for 60 at least so a smaller event may be better - for your sanity and your pocket!

7. Have my cake and eat yours too!
One of the biggest dilemmas for parents of multiples is whether to provide a separate cake for each child. Once multiples are old enough to have a preference, certainly they should determine the answer. I alternated each year with a big 'themed' cake like a fairy castle with two princesses (of course!) or a merry-go-round with two children on the carousel and on other years I had two smaller cakes made. They didn't seem to mind whatever I did but as they got older, they had very different tastes and that extended to choice of cakes too! For younger children. cupcakes are an easy solution and great for giving out at food time or in party bags. However, one thing I feel is an absolute must is that each child should have "Happy Birthday To You" sung to them, all the way through - the difficulty is who gets it sung first - I would alternate each year and hope you remember who was first last year.

8. Give thought to gift-giving.
One of the most common questions from party guests and family is whether they should get separate gifts for each twins or multiple. There is no defined protocol or easy answer like so many issues with multiples, it all depends on the children and their personalities.

In some cases. a single gift that can be shared may be more fun than individual items. A board game or large toy like a sandpit are examples of this type of gift. In other instances it's appropriate to give presents that are similar but unique in detail, such as dolls with different dresses or hair colour or toy cars in different colours. However, sometimes it's easier all around to just give everyone the same thing - it's one less thing to argue about!

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